Repeat after me: 'I am not Batman...I am not Batman' - NYNY Experiment

Hello, I haven't posted for a while, but I can assure you much has been happening and much progress has been made.

As well as new super secret goals I may reveal shortly (I pretty much live by the whole, review, analyse and and update model of goal setting) I thought I would start on this week's post

Deb is so right when she talks about synchronocities in this project, while I haven't been posting my work up here, I have noticed the similar energy levels thing she talks about.

More on synchronicities. A series of odd coincidences occured whereby my friend and I were discussing an awesome talk from TED on vulnerability and I ended up reading a poignant letter in this awesome advice column

However, the discussiong with my best friend on the TED topic brought up something I thought was relevant.

'You need to be less Virgo'  she said


'What do you mean? Virgos are awesome!'

'Yes, but your brand of Virgo-ism means you view your emotions and needs as messy, ugly things that need to be tidied away and never shown to anyone'

'Well I wouldn't put it quite like that'

'Well I would, last time you ended up crying in front of me you could not stop apologising for it'

Suffice to say, what she says is true and in the spirit of becoming more vulnerable I will explain. I have a stupid irrational fear of asking people for help or telling them what I want because fear they will think I am a selfish git and leave me, it is far easier for me to type this than explain - with words - to my closest friends.

But if someone calls me and asks me to do something? I will do it, because I feel I need to keep earning their friendship by helping them whenever I can. Truth is if I didn't have friends who were quite intuitive it could cause a lot of problems in our relationship, hell it has caused problems in the past.

Moral of the story: use your words, express your needs and let your friends help you, we can only grow stronger as a whole if we help each other up. I sure will try to remember to do this myself.

And in no way should this song be your theme tune